liar: yes u r

'There's two phases of male lying," says Neil Strauss, author of The Game, the bestselling memoir of his year as a professional pick-up artist. "Courtship lying to get someone to like them and relationship lying to keep their girlfriend from leaving them."

"Men are horrible liars," he continues. "They usually get caught and if they don't, it leads to a suspicion that lasts for the whole of the relationship. But I don't think men lie because they are horrible people, they lie because they're weak."
http://style.uk.msn.com/sexandrelationships/datingadvice/article.aspx?cp-documentid=6521039


Let's put the theory on the table. Men love to lie, but they are absolutely horrible at it. Women rarely lie, but when they do, it's a story so good that it could be the basis for 100 episodes of a Spanish soap opera.

But beyond the faults women might have, men don't always have to lie. Yet they do as instinctively as they grab their privates on an hourly basis. Lies just shoot out of men's mouths with the ferocity of a machine gun.

These lies are often at the tip of their tongues, ready for any situation, and often so full of holes that they make Swiss cheese look like a water dam.

Not that all men lie, of course not. But from experience (and 99% of women will back me up on this), the only men who don't lie are those devoted to their religion, gay, or have had their tongue removed.
http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi/21_dating_girl.html


Well, sometimes they don’t see anything wrong with lying. This means that some guys are just liars and that’s what they do best. Evidently, these men don’t see how a lack of trust will undermine any love relationship. But since they’ve never examined the issue, they will continue to lie because it has helped them achieve their short-term objectives in the past.

This is probably the biggest reason why men lie. They have a fear that by telling the truth the woman will evaluate solely from her point-of-view and not consider his side of the story. Rather than deal with this situation, a guy will often tell what he sees as a “little white lie” in order to avoid setting off a chain-reaction of other unwanted emotions in the woman. However, this also becomes a convenient “excuse” for men that justifies their negative actions and minimizes the “wrong” of lying.

They tend to lie to avoid confrontation because some men think that maybe things will change in the future and this will all become a non-issue to the woman. In addition, lying is a selfish way to protecting the liar without considering the other person’s best interests.

Lying destroys trust in a relationship and it could be the first reason to destroy a relationship. Both of you should put trust as a foundation of the relation.
http://www.womanarticles.net/romance-and-dating/410/the-various-reasons-why-men-lie-to-women/


and for men: im not upset/sad/bla3 because u lied to me, im just upset because from now on i cant trust u anymore.
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